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[ Family ] Open Question : Should I let my dads wife be in my daughters life?

Ok so this is long and I am sorry but please read it. My mum died when I was 8 years old and we were incredibly close she died in childbirth with my baby sister who also died the same day. I went to live with my grandparents for 6 months (my mothers parents) because dad needed space and they needed me. When I went back to live with dad our relationship had become strained and we were not as close as we used to be and have not been since then. Dad liked to talk about mum and Eva my sister and we had their pictures around the house to help us feel them with us. When I was 9 years old my dad met his now wife Erica, they dated for about 3 months before I met her. She was asking me questions when I met her and she would ask me about my family and when I would mention mum and Eva she would go completely quiet with a somewhat angry look on her face and at the time I could not figure out why. She moved in with us when they got engaged and she would turn the pictures of mum and Eva around or take them down. I confronted her and dad about it and she would just say my grieving stage was now over and that I had a new mother now. Dad would tell me just to keep them in my room because Erica felt uncomfortable with them up which annoyed me. She moved in with us and she knew dad had a past. My grandparents used to come and pick me up and take me out and she would get very angry and annoyed at that. They got married when I was 11 and I was just a guest I did not take part in the wedding because I already disliked her a lot. She got pregnant on their honeymoon and I stayed with my grandparents when they were gone and she tried to get dad to send me to her parents. They had my half-sister Leah and she got worse with me. She told me not to have pictures of my mum and Eva around Leah because I had to share a room with her for the first 2 years and it was hard when she cried all night and I had school the next day. They had two other children over the years Blake now 6 and Katie now 5. At Christmas Erica would give out to my grandparents every year for buying me gifts and not her kids but they would say I was their only grandchild. Erica never liked me going to stay with them which I did a lot because of her attitude twords me. On my sixteenth birthday my grandparents bought me a car and she tried to smash it up on me because she said they would not be able to afford anything like that for their kids. I graduated when I was 16 and went to work in my grandparents family restaurant which I own but my grandmother was the conservator of it until I was 18. Erica also did not like my boyfriend who I have been with since I was 15 and he was my best friend since I was 6 years old. When I was 18 I left home and fully inherited the restaurant and bought a house with my savings from working. I have talked to her since moving out and asked her why she behaved the way she did and she said that I should have called her mum and when I told her she was not she just shouted at me and stormed off. I am now 19 years old and pregnant with my first daughter Isabelle Grace after my mum and grandmother. Erica is not happy that I wont call my daughter after her in someway, but I have told her and my dad she will not be apart of my daughters life at all. I have told my dad he can see Isabelle but Erica is not aloud near her my boyfriend feels the same way as I do about her. Dad has said that I should consider letting her be involved, my half-sibling and him can be but I do not want her near my daughter. What do you guys think? Also do you like the name?

[ Marriage & Divorce ] Open Question : Cold feet or something more?

So my wedding is one week and one day away from today. We’ve lived together for about 2 years now and have been engaged for 4 months. I love him, I truly do, but I have a horrible feeling about the wedding. I’m not excited, not stressed about it, I still have a ton of things to do, but couldn’t be bothered to finish them. Everyone thinks I’m crazy because I appear so calm, but inside I have a feeling of apathy, I’d even go so far as to say dread. Lately we have been arguing non stop. Everything gets blown out of proportion and a huge fight ensues. We are both to blame for this. I am also carrying a ton of extra stress right now with dealing with my daughter’s father and two jobs, plus carrying the costs of the wedding, as he’s cash strapped an not able to contribute at the moment. I’m dealing with a bout of depression as well following a car accident, the death of my father and grandfather and a few other things. I also have the kids to think about. My daughter is 3.5 and he’s been an active member of her life since she was a baby. She knows he’s not her father, but I think she looks to him as a male role model. His two kids are 13 and 9 and had the tough battle of dealing with the death of their mother to cancer 3 years ago, so to displace them again would be cruel. I don’t know what’s wrong. The wedding is one day after the anniversary of my dad’s passing, maybe this time of year is getting to me as well. Everything he’s doing lately is just driving me insane and I think he feels the same way about me. Another blow up last night and now we’re not talking to each other today. Is it normal to feel this way? I can’t stress enough that underneath it all I really do love him. He is a wonderful man and I do want to spend the rest of my life with him, but the wedding just fills me with despair. God could it be a commitment issue? That the paper makes it so much more permanent (although it’s permanent without the paper) what’s wrong with me?

[ Singles & Dating ] Open Question : Should i express my feelings to her?

So i have strong feelings for this girl i work with. She has been engaged though,for five years and has had some recent troubles with her fiance. she says she’s not even sure if they are gonna be together much longer, because they have been fighting alot and he has shown no interest in setting a date for the wedding, and that after five years of being engaged he still hasn’t grown up yet. She’s really awesome and we get along very well. We take lunch breaks together and talk about our lives and other stuff. I haven’t told her my feelings but have dropped hints, such as “he should feel lucky to be with an awesome girl like you” and other stuff like that. One time a date actually stood me up and the next day when she asked about it , I told her and she said “aww well if you asked me I would have said yes”. She also gave me her number and is always telling me to text her when we aren’t working. I know she’s engaged so she’s off limits but she doesn’t seem happy with this guy. She has a kid with him, and he proposed when she was pregnant and she is starting to think the only reason he did propose is because he got her pregnant Should I discuss my feelings with her? or just leave it alone?