[ Marriage & Divorce ] Open Question : Personal hygiene and fixing messes issue, how to go about it?
Hi. I’ve been married for about 3 years now, I am a SAHM with a little girl. My husband has always been messy, so before you say it, I knew who I was marrying. The last year, it has become unbearable and disgusting though. He wakes up every day to go to work at 5 in the morning. I have to spend 1-1.5 hours afterwards, fixing the mess he created. I know it’s early and I know he is messy. But I have to clean his toothpaste from the floor because he didn’t aim well at the sink and spat it out. I have to wipe the water he showered in from the same floor, he floods the entire floor with it. I have to pick up his dirty underwear because he can’t take them himself and put them in the laundry basket which is right next to the shower. I have to pick up his dirty earbuds from the floor!!! He smokes in our little bathroom with a tiny ventilator and the room reeks with smoke every time me or or little girl goes in. I have asked him COUNTLESS times to NOT do that. He keeps on doing it. It’s ridiculous. I don’t mind fixing his messes like crums on the floor from eating or a dirty cup of coffee or dishes or fold clothes, etc, normal things SAH wives do. But the things he leaves are really disgusting and I don’t want to be doing them. I think he is a grown man and he can fix his own PERSONAL and private messes. I keep thinking to myself, I AM NOT YOUR MOTHER. I am your WIFE. I think he got a bit too comfortable with me. Plus, I have my child to take care of as well. I want to talk to him about this but I don’t know how to go about it. Any suggestions? Thanks.