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[ Sociology ] Open Question : How to stop being socially awkward?

I was a really weird kid, but it wasn’t the fun kind of weird, it was the -really annoying- kind. I’m getting rid of lots of stuff that I kept from my elementary years, but I read through all of it before tossing it, and it’s giving me an outside view of what a creep I am. If I went back in time, I would not want to talk to me at that age. I’m usually just really quiet now around people I’m not really close with because I have nothing to say, and if I do say something, it’s always something stupid or weird. I was raised as a sheltered kid (my parents didn’t shelter me, they just happened to be nice parents who didn’t fight or yell, and I ended up hanging out with the “right” crowd throughout grade school so I was ignorant to family problems, drama between friends, and anything that you might need a friend to be -there for.-) I stopped worrying about every little detail of the things I said a couple years ago, so the problem isn’t social anxiety, it’s simply having no clue how to properly interact with people. I want to be able to hold fun conversations with my friends, click with new people, and know when I said the right or wrong thing (I can’t tell if my screw-ups really are screw-ups until looking back on something that happened too far in the past for it to matter to the other party anymore). I work in customer service which has helped a fair bit, but god help me, social interaction is NOT something that comes naturally to me… Does anyone know how to improve this????????? I’m looking for an answer more detailed than just “go out more.” I go out all the time with all sorts of people. I just can’t build any kind of actual relationship with them.